What a day

Today was a rough one for me at school. I wasn't felling well when I left but I think it was just a bad feeling. That should have been my clue to stay home.


Today B was at school. He hasn't been there very often because they have been out of town but even before that he was a little off when it came to playing with the other kids. The last couple of times he has been at school he has been a little wild, and slowly getting worse. Today was by far, he worst day.

Most days he wants to play by himself, which is fine, and not have much to do with the other kids. We let it go because he is now a big brother (2 months now I think) and hasn't quite adjusted yet. Well the kids were painting on the floor and after telling him several times not to walk thru the area (we were off to one side of the room and not in anyones way) I sent him to time out. Now as I have said before time out is not a big deal (sit, think about what you did, talk to us, apologize and that's it) but he would not go. I walked over to him to walk him to time out when he pinched me. Not ok. I had to sit down with him and hold him to get him to calm down. Once he was calm we talked about why he went to time out.
Later on during circle time he kept talking, yelling, and standing in other kids way of the book and had to be sent to time out. This time S took care of him. This time had to take him outside to talk to him so we could continue with circle time. About 10 minutes after they came back in we were doing something else and he kept running into us with a ball and I asked him to stop. Again he had to go to time out, and this time he pinched me on my neck.

NOT
OK

I took him outside and talked to him. He was just out of control today. When his dad came and picked him up we talked to him about what was going on and what we would like for them to do, at home with him, to reinforce what is going on at school. Just as we were talking he did it again to someone else and dad saw first hand what we had been telling with during the day. I told dad that there was no reason to deal with it at the moment because it would embarrass him but when he acted out he dealt with it. I'm hoping that he gets better even though I have a feeling things will get worse before they get better.

She was a perfect child

I know I know, there is no such thing as a perfect child but I like to think that Savie was a really good child. She listened really well, talked a lot, loved to play with anyone, willing to talk to just about anyone but things have changed. And not for the better.

Since we have been going to preschool she has become a sassy little thing. She tells me 'no' a lot more, has temper tantrums and has just picked up some really bad habits. There is one boy there who is the picture of an only child. He is used to getting what he wants when he wants it and when that doesn't happen he throws a fit. Now myself personally I am going to ignore that kind of behavior. My theory is the more attention you pay to it the bigger it gets (you know the squeaky wheel and all that). He wants the chair that someone is already sitting in, on the swing that someone is already on,etc and when he doesn't get it right that second he huffs, crosses his arms and then throws himself on the floor crying. Savie has started doing this and I am not having that. It's one thing for the parent to treat their kid that way but when they go to school they can't do that.
Am I wrong for thinking this? I can't tell the parent this because I think I already offended one parent by telling them to drop their kid off and go instead of dragging it out for a good 20 minutes and the kid ends up crying. I just don't know how to say it without offended them. But there is no way to say that without offending them, right?

Goals

I have finally made up my mind, and I think my mother would be happy. I am going back to school. I may have said this before but I am really going to go thru with it this time. I went the the junior college here and got the books so I can plan for next semester, not the winter semester but the spring/summer one. That way I have time to plan for Savie, find grants/financial aid (if I qualify), and look for a house. I figure that by the time we move, he stops working long enough to get his contractors license things should be settled down enough for me to go to school. Especially since I plan on doing online classes and Savie won't be in school just yet. I'm hoping that by the time I put her in day care/prechool I will be ready for 2-3 classes and not stressing to much, lol.

Which brings up another subject, putting Savie in daycare. I don't see the point since I am not working and we spend time out with other kids. I mean, why waste the money that we don't really have, on putting her in school now when I am not doing anything else during the day? I mean if I was working, or in school, then yeah I will put her in school but for now there's no need. And it's not like we don't spend time with other kids and are not social, we are. We have a pretty wide schedule where we do do certain things on certain day, ie story hour or going to the park, but we are active. Everyday is something, even if we just have to go wash clothes we are out doing something. Well it's way past the little one's bedtime so I guess I better go put her to bed, lo. Have a great night ladies.